They say in the end you always get what you pay for. And the amount that most of us are paying for our dating apps is NOTHING. This isn’t to say that we’re getting nothing out of these free apps, such as Tinder, Hinge, and OkCupid, but there’s a certain unspoken understanding pertaining to these freebies that you just can never expect too much. Plus, we all know that sometimes it just happens to be a big ol’ crapshoot anyways! I’ve paid a pretty penny for both JDate and Match and ended up with very few guys that I truly liked. I’ve also met various men through Tinder (of all places) who were true marriage material. Sometimes it just comes down to luck.
They also say that in life there’s no such thing as a “free ride.” Alas, all of these seemingly free dating sites have to start making profit at some point (apparently our love and happiness isn’t enough.) Tinder came up with Tinder Plus, and OkCupid users can pay a little more each month to be put on the “A-List.” Compared to other dating sites, OkCupid A-List offers more features than the rest. But when it comes down to it, do these benefits actually lead to everlasting love? We at Top Romp decided to try it and see for ourselves.
1. Daters Anonymous
I’ll admit it. Whenever there’s someone online that I happen to dig, I may visit their profile multiple times a day (ok ok…an hour.) We all do it. You show their photos to your BFF for approval, or check to see the last time they’ve been online, or just feel like re-reading through their entire profile at 3am (don’t judge.) It’s all completely natural and nothing to feel guilty about. It’s just the way the Internet culture has shaped us. We’re able to endlessly stalk anyone we wish and remain anonymous. But wait! This is where OkCupid decides to be a total dick. Every single time you want to visit someone’s profile, they get a notification. And while your intentions may have been completely innocuous, and the act itself even slightly unconscious–it can be perceived as Crazy-Stalkerville-Alert!!! This is where being an A-Lister comes into play with Invisible Browsing. Visit profiles as many times as your little single heart desires, and no one will ever know. Is this perhaps a sneaky way OkCupid gets you to upgrade your membership? Duh. But they’ve got bills to pay too, ya know! Is this a brilliant way to let us live out our deepest desires without coming off as desperate losers? You betcha.
2. Change Your Mind, Change Your Name
Your username is your calling card, your online identity, that which can make or break your chances of love within seconds. Personally, I created my own OkCupid account over three years ago through a dare by my girlfriends, after a bad breakup, and at the end of a Martini Madness Party. So, I came up with my username at 4 am while I was exhausted, still heartbroken and more than slightly inebriated (GO ME!) What I didn’t realize was that name would technically be mine for life, or at least for the life of my account. This is when A-List comes to the rescue by letting you change your username while still getting to keep your account & profile intact. So if five years ago in your more infantile years, you thought it was a good idea to go by the username PoonPredator69, but now as a more mature gentleman looking for a quality girl, you can partake in a little nomenclature upgrade (and please do.) Think about it. Would you still wear the same clothes you wore in middle school? Would you give a recruiter an old resume? Hell no. So why should your username be any different?
3. Messages That Last Until the End of Time
Ok, maybe not exactly until the end of time, but for a freaking long ass time at least. Do you realize that as a free user you’re only allowed to keep 300 messages in your inbox?! That may seem like a lot to some people. But for people like me who never ever delete anything (I currently have over 60,000 gmail messages in my inbox,) this feature is KEY. As an A-lister you will be given a capacity of 5,000 messages. There have been times in my dating history when I would end a relationship, experience another Lovelife Breakdown Slash BreakTHRU, and I’d ask myself — Hey what happened to that cute doctor from Scarsdale who played ice hockey from 2 years ago? I’d then proceed to go back into my OkCupid message rolodex to find….NOTHING. I’m sure you know this horrific feeling of love lost, opportunity missed, and it all being completely out of your control. That could have been the ONE! And you realize there’s no way to find them unless you happen to break an appendage every weekend in hopes of serendipitously ending up in their medical care. Trust me- this A-List feature is oh so necessary. Don’t let yourself learn the hard way (like me.) I’m out of things to break.
4. Like Literally Like Who Likes You
While the whole Tinder thing may seem like such a basic concept (swipe right or left,) it has a feature that the basic OkCupid free users don’t get: The ability to see who likes you. While I’m definitely progressive enough to message a guy first, I really don’t like to do so unless I know that person is also into me. That’s why with Tinder, messages are only between those who “like” one another. With the free version of OkCupid, you’ll receive an “It’s a Match” message once both of you have “liked” one another. But I find it exceedingly helpful to be able to filter by those who have already expressed interest in me. It lessens the fear of rejection and saves me so much time. I know I’m not the only fool that has concocted a beautifully written message to someone only to be left with an eternity of crickets and a highly bruised ego. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
5. Nix the Waiting and the Guessing Game
The “Read Receipt” feature of OkCupid A-List is seemingly a small one. But in my personal experience, it’s probably one of the most helpful. How many times have you messaged someone on a dating app and not received a response for another month. They may have been highly interested but just travelling for work. Or they may not go onto their OkCupid account that often. Or maybe they’ve been stuck in a well with Baby Jessica!!! WE WILL NEVER REALLY KNOW. But not so fast with the freakouts! With OkCupid A-List, you can tell whether they’ve actually read your message yet. They actually could very well be the man of your dreams, yet just have an actual life and be too wrapped up in it to check their messages! Read receipts make it easy to see who is totally NOT into you. If he/she has read your message and not responded, yet you see they’ve been trolling the site for the last 48 hours, then you probably want to move on. It helps to take the guesswork out of your dating life for you instead of making it even more complicated. Remember at the heart of it, the concept is a simple one.
Pursue only those who you like and who also like YOU. Give time to those who give you their time and attention.
OkCupid A-List helps to make this possible.
So the Question Was: Is OkCupid A-List Worth the Price?
Well, for $9.95/month (6 month package) and $14.95/month (3 month package,) my answer is: HELL to the YES. This dating app upgrade is one of the least expensive out there, and not only do the benefits make the whole process more enjoyable and easy, but it really can help you find your perfect match. If your love life is a real priority to you (and it probably is if you’re reading this,) then you may want to start acting like it is. We say Man up and pay the little bit extra for A-List. Your love life will thank you (and you’ll thank us.)
Become an A-List Member!