Opposites Actually Don’t Attract


A common phrase we often hear is “Opposites Attract.” While that may be true in the world of physics, it doesn’t necessarily hold true in dating. More often than not, a couple isn’t polarized. For instance, someone wanting to travel the world probably wouldn’t be dating someone who’s content staying in the same city their entire life. Someone who likes to go out and party probably wouldn’t work out with someone who wants to stay in and watch a movie every night.

Similarly, someone who is driven and yearning for success wouldn’t be content with someone who is okay with just getting by. For all of the House of Cards watchers out there, Frank Underwood needs someone like Claire beside him to push him.

A new study conducted by relationship researchers from Wellesley and the University of Kansas states that opposites, in fact, don’t attract. In reality, people are attracted to others who have the same values as themselves.

The study, which was first published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found a “paradigm shift” in how our relationships are viewed. In order to discover how important similarity was in forming relationships, professor Angela Bahns and her team of researchers approached over 1,500 random pairs (romantic couples, friends, and acquaintances) and surveyed them on their values, prejudices, attitudes and personality traits.

The major finding of the study was simply that people’s future friends or partners are actually similar “at the outset of their social connection.” In other words, people had similar views on life even if they had just met. “Picture two strangers striking up a conversation on a plane or a couple on a blind date,” says Bahns. “From the very first moments of awkward banter, how similar the two people are is immediately and powerfully playing a role in future interactions. Will they connect? Or walk away? Those early recognitions of similarity are really consequential in that decision.” [1]

This is even more true for people who are career oriented and focused on personal growth. I know when I was single, it was difficult to balance a 9-5 job, my start up, and the nagging need to go on dates and find “the one.”

Dating apps can be stressful: those awkward introductions, saying the right thing, trying to develop a real connection from behind a computer screen. We all want to meet that perfect person but don’t really want to deal with the whole exhausting process. I know I just wanted to meet someone that I could relate to, but in today’s world it’s hard to just meet people in general, as odd as that may sound.

I set out to create an app that solved this problem. The problem being, it’s hard to get connected with people, even in today’s social world. This is true in most facets in life. It took me 5 months to find developers that could create the app I envisioned. Eventually, my partner in crime Evan Leong learned how to code and got us into the App store.

What we ended up creating was Fount. It’s an app that saves people time and allows them to connect in a community atmosphere. If you are industrious or entrepreneurial you’ll love the resources that you have at your fingertips.

Users of the app can search by skill-set. For instance, if you want to find a graphic designer, an app developer, or a marketer that can help you or your business, you can simply search by that keyword. Users can also post anything they need to the “need feed.” This is a timeline like feed of things people need. If you have always had a great idea for an app or a website, now you can find the people to help you build it.

What’s a better way to connect with someone than to be of service to them?  Imagine someone posting that they need graphic design help, and you happen to be a graphic designer. This app allows you to get your foot in the as far as a way to connect with people, and get to know them and their skills and aspirations.

Fount isn’t a dating app; It’s for entrepreneurial-minded people who want to network within a community atmosphere. But that doesn’t mean you can’t use it to make friends or even form romantic connections. Remember that we often find romantic partners who share our interests and are in similar fields. For me, personally, I don’t know what’s more attractive than a girl that knows how to code.

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